Q&A: Where Do I Find the Energy?
Q. "Where do you find the energy to do all this stuff? Like you I have one child, but I don’t have a husband. I find myself physically and mentally drained constantly. A couple days ago I began crying because I was so tired, both mentally and physically. Granted I work about 40 hours a week on feet, but I’m not foolish enough to believe that my work is any harder than that of a stay-at-home mother. I just don’t have the physical or mental energy to do “projects” like you. Like sewing, reading, small business etc… My “hobby”, so to speak, is computer time. -Ash"
A: Well, I'm not superwoman. :) I wish I had a lot more energy and hours in my day because there is a lot more I'd like to do!
You don't have a husband, so you are shouldering a lot more of a load than I am. I honestly can't imagine what it would be like.
I worked as a waitress for 5 years at a very busy, upscale restaurant and I know it can be extremely tiring. I think any job that requires you to be on your feet for hours on end just sucks the life out of you.
I do alot, but there are also a lot of things I don't do. I am very careful about committing to things and I say "no" a lot for the sake of my family and my sanity. I rely upon the Lord for His grace and strength. I also seek to make the most of everyday. There are so many things I want to do, read, study, write, and so on, so I want to pack as much into everyday as possible!
Practically speaking: Getting up early and starting my day out with time in prayer and reading God's Word is what gives me fuel for the day.
Eat well. Drink a lot of water. Exercise.
Have a schedule. Get rid of clutter. Learn to say "no." Plan ahead. Eliminate and concentrate.
Most of all: Enjoy life, enjoy your child, and live each day as you would want to live your last day.
Hmm... there's a lot more I could say... but I'm off to play with Kathrynne.
A: Well, I'm not superwoman. :) I wish I had a lot more energy and hours in my day because there is a lot more I'd like to do!
You don't have a husband, so you are shouldering a lot more of a load than I am. I honestly can't imagine what it would be like.
I worked as a waitress for 5 years at a very busy, upscale restaurant and I know it can be extremely tiring. I think any job that requires you to be on your feet for hours on end just sucks the life out of you.
I do alot, but there are also a lot of things I don't do. I am very careful about committing to things and I say "no" a lot for the sake of my family and my sanity. I rely upon the Lord for His grace and strength. I also seek to make the most of everyday. There are so many things I want to do, read, study, write, and so on, so I want to pack as much into everyday as possible!
Practically speaking: Getting up early and starting my day out with time in prayer and reading God's Word is what gives me fuel for the day.
Eat well. Drink a lot of water. Exercise.
Have a schedule. Get rid of clutter. Learn to say "no." Plan ahead. Eliminate and concentrate.
Most of all: Enjoy life, enjoy your child, and live each day as you would want to live your last day.
Hmm... there's a lot more I could say... but I'm off to play with Kathrynne.
posted by Crystal Paine at 3:49 PM
3 Comments:
Maybe it is something simple, like I don't get enough iron.
Thanks for your advice!
-Ash
I wanna apply for that "help needed" part time position. has it been taken yet???
Ash-I felt dreadful after my first was born. One of my close friends had a baby a fortnight later and had loads of energy. Having said that she had been ill most of the pregnancy and I was fine.
I got quite low but this always got worse when I was tired. But, things did get better with time. The Psalms were a great encouragement to me. Crystal is so right about starting the day with God's Word.
My husband and family were supportive and I really feel for you being on your own.
It might be worth seeing your doctor to check that you are well. Do you know an older woman perhaps in the church who can give advice? I often felt that I really didn't know what to do with a little child.
Once I felt a little better it helped to do something even a little creative each day. I'm not talkomg about major projects but planting a bulb or making a cake or even a different type of sandwich.
Looking back now this was a difficult time but a time when I learnt much about my weakness, human nature and God's grace.
I do hope that things get better for you soon.
Annaelisabeth
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