"I JUST checked" is bogus!
Now you get the joy of knowing why the phrase "I JUST checked" is bogus. Never works. They are quick as a wink, and faster than that. I (finally) wised up after my HIGHLY spirited and incredibly curious #3. lol I'm slow, but once I get it, I got it! They stay with ME. If she does that good with lipstick, you should just let her help with those projects you were finishing. ;) What a cutie! -J.M.
J.M., your comment was accidentally deleted before posting, so I thought I'd post it here. This might sound like a dumb question, but any suggestions on how to keep her with me? She won't stay put for longer than a nanosecond most times. I really try to involve her in most everything I do as much as possible, but she likes to play by herself some and I don't mind as long as she isn't destroying things. But, I'd like to be able to have her in the same room as me but I can't seem to get her to stay in any one room. Suggestions or ideas?
posted by Crystal Paine at 8:07 PM
16 Comments:
Why not use a gate?
How about a sling? Obviously, not all day, but just when you are doing something (not cooking!) when you can't constantly check on her.
Crystal,
I second the baby gates. We love them for our crawlers/beginning walkers. We can babyproof the room and let them have at it.
Melanie B.
Mama would train Lydia to stay in one room. Before she learned to walk she was not allowed out of the front room. If she crossed the line she got swatted.
So could you just train her to play in the room where you are at?
I would recommend www.raisinggodlytomatoes.com for advice on training young children to stay where you want them to. Actually, the goal there is to train them to obey you, period. Elizabeth is the name of the lady who owns that site, and she explains her philosophy much better than I can.
We just tell our son (26mo) to stay with us. If he leaves the room he is retrieved, told to stay with us, and if it happens again he knows he will have a consequence for his disobediance. I have safe things in every room for our son - if I clean, he will wipe about with a cloth or chase the vacuum cleaner etc; if I am writing or sewing etc, he will play with a toy or draw etc. To be honest he is as happy playing with a slipper, a cushion or a jug as with a toy so it is easy to give him something to investigate safely in the same room as us.
In Christ, Lucy
Crystal,
My Mom did "blanket training" with my younger brother. It worked WONDERFULLY!! She put a blanket on the floor(big enough that he could move around some) and put a few toys and books on it and then set my brother on it and taught him that he wasn't allowed to get off of it until she took him off. She did this by flicking his hand whenever he would start to crawl off she then put him back on the blanket. It is amazing how fast little tykes learn, it only took him a couple tries before he figured it out. It wasn't emotionally draining or anything. I suppose if a person had a very strong willed baby it would be more difficult. I fully intend to teach this to my little girl when she starts crawling because it is such an easy thing for them to learn and makes life SO MUCH EASIER!
~Jen
I think you live in a small house and so do I, but one thing that is nice about that is they are always within earshot. When we lived in a even smaller place (14x24 cabin) I did teach them to stay on the rug while we were cooking as it was not safe to have them around my feet.
What I do not as I have a very active 18 month old is we shut doors where there is stuff he may get into, he has freedom to go into the boys room, the living room kitchen area and if I am in my office. My boys hate baby gates or playpens, but they can stay put if need be! The first 2 spent alot of time in playpens and I don't know that it was the best for them! I have to remember that getting into things is part of development! I let them get into certain things, I will put toys in a large tub to dump out all over, the pan cupboard is okay to play with.
Also, if it ever gets quiet, run!!!!
It almost always means trouble! I have alot less cleanups when I keep things that can potentially make a mess or spill up high or behind closed doors. Bathrooms are always shut, because there are too many dangerous things there!
Hi Crystal
I have been having some issues with this myself, I have been trying to figure out what to do with my 10 month old while I school the other children. I have gotten some wonderful suggestions. First off definately check out the Raising Godly Tomatoes site mentioned above,also, many people have said to have scheduled times for certain things such as blanket time, highchair time, paypen time, ect. Also to teach her boundaries of where she can and can't go (I would not recommend using a gate, unless it is to keep her out of danger) Ezzo has some good suggestions on these kind of issues ( I am not saying I agree with him 100%, but he has some good ideas)Also, have you checked out the website www.preschoolersandpeace.com? I know she is not really a preschooler yet but it still has some good ideas. Hope this helps!!!
P.S. I REALLY enjoy your site : )
Amatthia
I agree with the others. Just train her to stay in the room with you!
What a fun age!!!
Bessie
I think that all my ideas have been said, but I will just state them anyhow. I would defenitely keep off-limits rooms closed(bathroom, my room, closets-they can sometimes get stuck). At her age, she shouldn't be able to open the door. I also would say a baby gate would be fine. But limit that kind of confinement to a short period of time...then it becomes like sitting in a playpen all day.
And as martha a. said, if it becomes too quiet...move fast. I always know my girls are up to no good when they are too quiet.
My 11 month old is pretty much the same. Likes to be with you but also like to be independent. I have the living room completely baby proofed and have a gate of sorts if I need to leave him alone for a moment. In the kitchen and other areas I will often put him into his high chair as he like to play with toys on his tray or munch on Cheerios. I have also found our "exer-saucer" invaluable. Basically it is a safe version of the walkers that were around when we were kids. He can stand up and wiggle around and there is room for his toys. This helps when I am making trips down the hall when doing laundry or cleaning the rabbit cages etc.
I second the www.raisinggodlytomatoes.com site. -- She advocates 'tomato staking' -- basically keeping your kids with you at all times. Check it out!
Thank you all for the great ideas -- I realized that I need ot be requiring and expecting more of Kathrynne than I am. I am now determined to teach her to be with me and have been having her with me at all times. I'm also going to read more of Rasiing Godly Tomatoes. :) I need all the parenting help I can get!
Crystal, I didn't have time to leave a response after I posted about babies & vegetables.
I'll pop on later with more thoughts. :)
i don't have any children yet but a lady from our church adopted two children from Russia last may.(2005) They turned two in May 2006. They are so well trained!!! They cannot talk yet but she talks to them and explains things to them as if they were older and they understand everything and obey right away! We used to think she was too strict but now we see that babies understand more than we think. They feed themselves with spoons, they bow their heads and fold their hands when she says "let's pray". They come when she says. I've heard her say "Joseph zip your coat" and he actually tries to! One day Heidi saw her brother outside and ran to the door(which is glass) and her mother told her-calmly- Heidi, no hands on the glass" and she listened. Also when they misbehave she gets down on there level and talks to them in complete sentences about "how we don't do that." They sit through one hour services in church quietly. Sometimes when they cry during service they cry quietly not loudly. They weren't that way in the beginning and I am sure it took a lot of time and energy to train them, but I have learned that you can expect more from a baby than you think. Plus there minds are so moldable at that age. When I have children I want to teach them sign language and also make them learn other foreign languages. She might seem strict now but I think that she has broken their will's and they will be so very enjoyable as they get older! --Bianca
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