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"What's an ebook?"
I loved this post by Candy about working from home and was so thrilled to see God blessing her ebook. I praise the Lord that I was able to help her out in a small way through this article. I remember back whenever I had just written my first little 32-page booklet, The Merchant Maiden. Jim Erskine (from Homeschool Radio Shows) had gotten a copy and he approached me and offered to buy resell rights from me if I would produce the booklet in ebook form. I was like, "What's an ebook?" As I started researching ebooks, I realized this was a whole new market out there and decided (with my husband's blessing) to give it a try. I had no clue what God had in store! Although I am not "into" ebooks and would much prefer a printed book, there is a large sector of the market out there that loves ebooks and would much prefer to buy them over a printed book. (I'm pretty sure some of it has to do with the instantaneous of them!) Writing an ebook is a very excellent way to make a nice stream of income. You have to put the initial time and effort into writing it, but once it is done (provided you have regular traffic to a blog or website) it can sell itself. Like Candy, I do not market or promote my ebooks outside of having links to them on my website. All of my ebooks are instantly downloadable so that the process is completely automated. I just get a payment through Paypal when someone buys an ebook (for the ebooks that are set up on Payloadz) or a check every two weeks (for the ebooks I sell through Clickbank). If I can write and produce an ebook, I promise you that you can, too. I'm no techno-genius by any stretch of the imagination. It is just one way, of so many different ways, that you can earn money from home. With the advent of the internet, there is a whole wide open field out there. With God's help and your authority's blessing and lots of creativity and initial time and hard work, it is very possible to earn a nice income from home without sacrificing your home and family to do so.
A Little Humor
Don't miss MM's humorous post about this blog and Desperate Housewives. I've never even seen the show and have no desire to, but I got a good laugh over her post, nonetheless.
Health Insurance Without College?
What do young ladies do about health insurance if you are not going to college? We are seeking the Lord about what our daughters should do after high school. At this point, we're leaning towards them not going. One of my concerns is that our daughters would not be covered under our insurance plan if they don't take 12 credit hours of college after age 18. One of our daughters has asthma so we need to have coverage on her. We cannot afford additional an health insurance premium on top of what we already are paying. Any ideas you can share with me would be most helpful!
Many thanks,
Molly I'd love to hear what others have to share on this. This is definitely something to take into consideration. When I graduated, I was 18 and our coverage plan was only applicable to those who were full-time students. Since I was not planning to go to college, my dad was able to talk with our insurance company and get a one-year extension on the coverage plan. The next year, I got my paralegal certification through Oak Brook College of Law, so I considered a full-time student (albeit from home) and so I was able to continue with the coverage. After that, I got married, so then I moved to my husband's plan. So, it was fairly simple for me. I'd love to hear what others have done that have run into similar situations. Have you appealed to your insurance companies or gone without insurance? Or used alternative insurance plans (like Medi-Share)? Any thoughts or ideas would be appreciated.
10-Cent Fixed Price Listings Tomorrow Only
For those who sell on eBay, they are having a 10-cent fixed price listing day tomorrow only.
Free Pancakes at IHOP!
 Since I know you all enjoy a good deal, I thought I'd pass along this information from blog reader, Martha: FREE PANCAKES! NO STRINGS ATTACHED!
On February 28, 2006 from 7 AM to 2 PM IHOPs across the country will
celebrate National Pancake Day (also known as Shrove Tuesday) by offering
our guests a free short stack of pancakes*. This is going to be our biggest
one day celebration in our history.
National Pancake Day has a rich history that stretches back centuries and
has always been a time of celebration. National Pancake Day always falls on
Fat Tuesday and this year it will be a celebration at IHOP.
So gather your friends, family and neighbors and come to your local IHOP and
enjoy a short stack of pancakes on us. All we ask is that you consider
making a donation to a great charity like First Book or other local, worthy
cause. Where else would you celebrate National Pancake Day than IHOP? See
you there.
* Limit one free short stack per guest. Valid for dine-in only, no to go
orders. Not valid with any other offer, special, coupon, or discount. Valid
at participating restaurants only, while supplies last.
Laundry Query
How is it that when you add a baby to your family, the laundry doubles? Jesse and I used to easily do only 2-3 loads per week -- a white load, a color load, and bedding load. Now, I almost always do at least 5-6 loads, plus two loads of diapers. Is it just me or is this typical?
Are Kids Cheap?
Find out just how much it really costs to raise 7 children per year -- you might be surprised. Jesse and I have found that having children creates more income. It's been phenominal to watch God's provision in our lives since Kathrynne's birth. As the monetary needs have increased, our income has increased. We are constantly in amazement of the provisions of the Lord. So, I'm curious: How much does it cost for you to raise your children? Anyone else besides Kim C. want to do the math?
Cinnabons without the "Cinna"
Well, I made the Cinnabons on Saturday. They were a bit of work, but worth it. My husband was especially thrilled with them. The only thing was, in typical Crystal fashion, I couldn't make the recipe exactly as it was written for I forgot I didn't have any cinnamon! I think that was sort of a major ingredient, but they tasted fine without it. :) I also should not have jumped in the shower to wash my hair when the dough was almost finished in the bread machine -- it rose too long and I don't think they turned out looking as nice as they could because of it. I also re-did the frosting recipe -- I think it may have been wrong, I'm not sure. At any rate, I put the revised frosting recipe here.
For Single Young Women
Thanks to blog reader Alyssa for sharing a new blog with me that will bless and encourage all of the single women out there. Go check out The Wheatfield.
Thank you for your sweet notes!
I've been receiving an outpouring of such kind, encouraging comments recently. Thank you to all of you who have taken the time to write to me. Your sweet notes are such a blessing. I praise the Lord that He is using this blog as an encouragement to others. Here's part of an email that came today which really blessed me: Thank you for the daily encouragement and inspiration through your blog. I am a single 31 year old woman who lives at home and works outside the home (in a continuing effort to get myself out of college debt and other foolish debt I have incurred). Through your inspiration and other sites that God has brought me to, I am forging ahead with a plan to get out of debt and one day work from home instead (my parents are divorced and so my income helps my mother, sister and I be able to live). Anyway, thank you for your candid thoughts and encouragement--they continue to encourage me to stay focused on how God would have me to live.
Your Sister In Christ, C.A.
Bread Machine Recipes, Anyone?
Blog reader, Jill, graciously sent me a HUGE file she has compiled of bread machine recipes (57 pages!). I am anxious to jump in a try some of these and wanted to offer them to you all since I know many of you enjoy using your bread machines as well. I'll probably post some of them in the next few months, but if you would like for me to email you the 57-page file of recipes (it's in WORD), just send me an email and I'll send it to you. Thanks so much, Jill! Here's one recipe I'm anxious to try (maybe I'll make it today it looks so good and I love Cinnabons!). Not that healthy, but it sure looks yummy!  Cinnabon’s for the Breadmachine
DOUGH CYCLE 1 c. milk
1 egg, beaten
4 TB. melted butter
7 TB. water
1 box instant vanilla pudding (3.4 oz. box)
4 c. bread flour
1 TB. sugar
½ tsp. salt
2 ½ tsp. yeast FILLING ½ c. butter, softened
1 c. brown sugar
2 tsp. cinnamon
¼ c. chopped walnuts, optional
¼ c. raisins, optional FROSTING (Real Cinnabon Frosting) 4 oz. cream cheese, room temp
¼ c. butter, softened
1 ½ c. powdered sugar
½ tsp. vanilla
1 ½ tsp. milk (add more milk to desired consistency)
3 TB. real maple syrup
Roll dough to 17 x 10 inches. Combine first three filling ingredients and mix well. Heat in microwave 10 sec. to make it spreadable. Spread over rolled out dough with rubber spatula. Get as close to the edges as possible. sprinkle nuts or raisin over dough. Starting with the widest end, roll the dough into a tight log. Cut into ½ - 1” pieces. Place in a lightly greased 9 x 13 (11x15 would be better) baking dish with sides. Put in a draft free place and allow to rise until double. (I turn my oven on warm and place them inside. When the temp. light goes off, turn the oven off.) Bake @ 350* for 15 - 20 minutes. When rolls are done frost. Makes 20 rolls.
"I have grown so weary of feminists..."
Crystal, I just wanted to send a note telling you how much I enjoy your blog. I am the mommy to 4 boys (8, 7, 21 months, 4 months) and the wife to Jeff. I think it is so wonderful that you are prodding women to be better wives and mothers. I find it so interesting that some women think they can do anything a man can (and better to boot) but they lash out when you blog about our roles as wives and moms. If we are uncapable of taking a small amount of criticism (that they aren't even being "forced" to read...anyone who reads your blog chooses to do so of their own free will) then how on earth do they expect that we as women should be able to do anything? I have grown so weary of feminists eliminating the need for men. We don't need them for protection or provision....we don't need them to help raise our children....we don't even need them for sex anymore (hence the great amount of lesbian feminists)....we don't need them leading our churches (we have women for that now too). So what exactly is the purpose of men??? (I'm not asking you these questions....just trying to make a point). =O) We certainly need more women taking a stand for motherhood and for the role we fill as help meets to our husbands. I have been so encouraged by your site and also challenged and I just wanted to thank you and be sure that tomorrow you got at least one positive email. -Mandi Canton, Ohio
"We ought not to be afraid..."
Thank yo to Renee for sharing her beautiful post on A Home-Centered Season. Here's a snippet: I pray more young women would not only realize how God wants women to function, but will use this in-between time for glorifying God, for being a special helper in the Church, and for preparing to advance Christ’s kingdom as a husband’s companion. Young ladies, there is so much potential for you in the home of your parents-- Learning how to keep a home that will reflect Christ’s love and salvation will be a gracious witness to those who enter its gate. Gaining wisdom on child rearing will reap unspeakable benefits, as we bring up the next generation of dedicated Christians, descendants who will follow after us, carrying our name and our mission.
The paradigm of young women keeping the home and assisting their parents or husband, has been normal and presumed for centuries, and has been a nearly worldwide practice. Perhaps, early America would not have had the righteous statesmen and distinguished leaders we did, had women forsaken their mission to help their husbands and their commitment to raise their children. Modern civilization is what has departed from tradition. We ought not to be afraid to move toward restoration of an honorable civilization. Let us be a willing component of a revival back to God’s design for families, churches, and countries—beginning with the integrity and preservation of righteous homes.
Your labors are not in vain
Okay, so I made a lot of enemies by saying that women need protectors. A few people called me some really, really ugly names (and I was thankful to have comment moderation on -- saved anyone else from having to read a lot of nastiness!). A handful of people said they were never going to read my blog again. That's okay. If you want to kick against the God-ordained roles for women and be your own boss, have it your way. It's your life and you have to give account for it. However, I will continue to joyfully defend what I believe is very clear from Scripture -- wives are to submit to their own husbands, in everything. For those feminists who think we are completely off our rockers and subjected to a sad, sorry state, I thought you might be interested in reading this article which explains what a wife's submission to her husband should look like. (HT: Becky Miller) You will notice that it doesn't say women are less intelligent or that women are chattel. Quite the opposite. Although I take issue with the statement in this article that modern feminism has done anything worthwhile for society (We don't need feminism to expose or combat pornography - we need the Word of God. And so on and so forth for any "good" thing which people hold up as resulting from feminism -- God's Word has spoken thousands of years ago to the worth and value of women. If we would just go back to the Scriptures, we would have plenty more help than any "good thing" feminism has tried to give us. And we wouldn't have all the garbage that came along with the modern feministic movement to deal with either!), I thought there were a lot of good points expressed in this article which might further clarify to those so baffled and upset by remarks about women submitting to men which were expressed earlier. For those women who are embracing their high callings as joyfully submissive wives and daughters, keep on! You are a beautiful testimony of Christ and the Church to a cold and dark world. Your labors are not in vain. Your rewards in heaven will be great! Go love on your children, smile and serve your husband, and sing while you clean your bathroom.
Pray for Candace
Hello Crystal,
There is a young girl named Candace Joy that is in need of great prayer right now. She is going through some very life-threatening medical situations, and has been through 12 surgeries in 15 days. Her family is requesting the Body of Christ to uphold their daughter in prayer. I'm sure they would appreciate it if you posted on your blog about it. They set up a website up for the prayer warriors, to update them about her situation. There's a neat "Prayer Calendar" that people can sign on the days that they have prayed for Candace... so far it says that she has been prayed for at least 9901 times in the past week. Please take a moment and check out the site, and post it on your blog if you feel it's appropriate. Thank you, Katherine S.
So adorable
I usually read the Bible and pray while I'm nursing Kathrynne in the morning. We've been working on teaching her to fold her hands when we pray. So, this morning while she was nursing, I told her that "Mama is going to pray now" and she instinctively worked very hard to get both of her hands folded. It was so adorable. Now, to instill in her a love for the Lord and a heart for God, not just folded hands when we pray.
In the Light of His Face
My mom sent me this quote by Amy Carmichael:
It was the hour between lights, and five little people under 2 years old were waiting for their food. Sometimes the cows belonging to the adjoining village from which part of our milk comes saunter home with more than their usual leisureliness, and then the milk is late. The babies, who do not understand the weary ways of cows, disapprove of having to wait, and that evening they were all very fractious. To add to their woes, the boy whose duty it is to light the lamps had been detained, and the quickly gathering twilight fell upon us unawares as we sat together on the nursery veranda. The five fretful babies made discouraging remarks to each other and threw themselves about in that exasperated fashion which tells the experienced that the limits of patience have been passed. And the more depressed began to whimper.
At this point a lamp was brought and set behind me so that its light fell upon their toys - a china head long since parted from its body, a tin with small stones in it which when shaken makes a charming noise, several rattles and other sundries. If anything will comfort them their toys will, I thought, as these illuminated treasures caught my attention. But the babies only looked disgusted. One of the most sweet-tempered seized the china head and flung it as far as ever she could. Not one of them would find consolation in toys.
Then a small child endowed with a vivid imagination and a timid disposition was sure she heard something dangerous moving in the bushes outside and she wailed a wail of most infectious misery and terror, and the quick panic which comes upon birds when they hear their own particular warning call sudenly filled the babies' ears, and they howled.
Then I took the lamp and set it in front so that its light did not fall upon the toys but upon myself, and in a moment the whole five were tumbling over me, cuddling and caressing - and content.
Are there not evenings in life when our toys have no power to please or soothe? There is not any rest in them or any comfort. Then the One whom we love best takes the lamp and puts it so that the toys are in the shadow, but His face is in the light. And then we know that that is what we wanted all the time. And He makes His Face to shine upon us and gives us peace.
Sweet letters in my inbox
I receive such sweet letters in my inbox. Here is part of one such letter from today:
I look forward to reading your blog during my computer time each day and our Madeline (7 yod) just loves the pictures of Kathrynne and hearing about her latest antics!! One of Madeline's favorite toys at one was a large tube of plastic lipstick that came in a playschool purse ~ perhaps Miss Kathrynne would enjoy her very own play lipstick? We are going to look in storage this weekend and see if we still have it to send our little cyber friend! :)
Oh and the 30 minute rolls were a huge hit at dinner the other night!!
Hope you have a wonderful day.
Your Sister in Christ,
Roxanne
Ps. Our books were in the post office box yesterday that we ordered from you "Created to be help meet" and "Family man, Family leader".... Both hubby and I are excited to dig in!! Thank you Crystal for your ministry, you really have no idea what a blessing you are in this big, big world. {{{big hug}}}
"Me Time" is Not the Remedy
I loved this post by Amy. When Jesus tells us that the way is narrow, few find it, and to take up your cross, He was the antithesis of the trendy pop-advice found in Oprah-like magazine articles. They say, “Love yourself,” as He says, “Love the Lord your God.” They say, “Make time for yourself,” while the Bible says, “Wait on the Lord.” We (mothers) are not leaving home for the workplace for lack of “me time,” but because, we fill our minds (un- and subconsciously, to be sure) with ideas that are anti-Biblical: “Have it your way,” “You deserve a break today,” and “Our bodies, our choice.” We are not called to a life of ease, but to a life of glory. That is, our chief end is to “glorify God and enjoy Him forever.” (Westminster, Question 1) In this simple catechism statement, we see God’s transcendence (His awe, His power) and His immanence (His nearness, His care). Not only are we to glorify a great God by taking up our cross and following Him, but we are to enjoy Him as we do, as He is One who enables us to glorify Him, “He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young.” (Isaiah 40:11) He gives strength to the weary so that we can serve Him with gladness. If we find insufferable our jobs—the very one that God has entrusted us with, the precious calling of accepting the least of these in His name—the remedy is not more “me time,” but more time on our knees. This is first. A mocha topped with whipped cream shared with another mom afterward doesn’t hurt either. Ladies, let's hug the cross!
Content with Mediocrity?
I've been thinking about medicrity the last few days. I think this is a sin prevalent in our current Christian culture. Since we think we can never be in an "ideal situation" we are often content to be lukewarm. I have found it very interesting in the course of having this blog to get a number of comments saying to the effect "I wish I had your life..." Or, "Your life seems too perfect to be true." Or, "You have the ideal situation and I don't." I always get a little chuckle out of comments like that. If any of these people came and lived my life, they would probably be surprised. Yes, I was blessed to be raised in a Godly home. Yes, I am blessed to be a wife to a Godly husband. And yes, I get to stay home and be a wife and mommy while earning an income at home. But, let me tell you, my life is not perfect. It is also not without difficulty. I am just seeking, by the grace of God, to do the best I can do, to make the most of each moment, and to glorify God where He has placed me. I fall short everyday, but God is faithful!
None of us are in "ideal" situations -- we all have struggles and difficulties. Yes, some have more than others, but no one lives a pain-free, carefree life without difficulty. But, does this give us reason to be content with mediocrity? Should these difficulties keep us from striving higher? Should we settle for less than God's best? No matter where we are, shouldn't we always be aiming and reaching for the ideal, as is found in God's Word? See my comments here. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this.
I Overlooked the Obvious
Sometimes, as a new mom, I seem to overlook the obvious. I wanted to thank everyone who shared help and ideas for training Kathrynne to stay close beside me. Realizing that I can train her to stay close beside me has revolutionized my life. I've only been " Tomato Staking" since this past Friday, and there has already been marked improvement. I am happier, she is happier, and Daddy is happier. I had been struggling with a lot of guilt for the past few months. There are quite a number of responsibilities that God has currently given to me and I was feeling pulled in many different directions. No matter how hard I tried, I was always feeling guilty -- especially in my mothering. No matter how much time I spent with Kathrynne, I always felt like I should be spending more. Well, keeping her by my side all day long (except when she's napping or Daddy is caring for her) has certainly relieved that guilt! And, I am delighting in her even more! Kathrynne is happier because she gets to be helping mama all day long and she has my constant oversight. Daddy has noticed a marked change in her attitude and she is already showing the fruits of our training by being much more obedient and listening and coming (sometimes, at least!) when we call her. And, last but not least, Jesse is continually telling me how glad he is for me to be putting forth the effort to keep her by my side and with me at all times. One of the greatest gifts a husband can give to his wife is to tell her how much he appreciates her efforts. Jesse has told me multiple times the past few days how grateful he is for me to be working with Kathrynne in this way. Do you know how it warms my heart to hear these words from my husband? To know that I am pleasing him and thus, pleasing the Lord. Surprisingly, I've been getting so much more done, too. I thought that it would be easier to have Kathrynne playing in the other room while I clean the kitchen or bathroom or work on projects that must be done. Actually, by having her "help" me, it keeps me on task more (I'm usually highly distractable, despite all of my efforts to not be so), I get more done, and she is learning right along with me. Someday she'll be able to do many of these tasks by herself. Yesterday, I gave her a sponge and had her "help" scrub part of the floor, while I was scrubbing down our oven. She loved it and it brought me such joy to see my daughter already delighting in serving -- even before she can talk or walk. I share all of this not to brag on any "good mothering" on my part -- believe me, I have so far to go and so much to learn, even in such basic areas! I share this, rather, to express my appreciation for your helpful encouragement to this newbie mom. I am so blessed to be surrounded by wise and Godly mothers who are much experienced than me who can give me guidance, counsel, and advice when I am struggling. Pray for me to be consistent in this. I am determined, by the grace of God, to follow through and keep up with this, but it will take a lot of God's grace. Consistency is definitely not my forte.
Name-Brand vs. Generic Brand
The winners are...
Congratulations to Amy Scott, Esther Lazyone, Martha Artyomenko, Jerri Davenport, and Naomi Brown for winning the homeschool filing system contest! Thanks to everyone who participated. Look forward to more contests in the future, Lord-willing!
The Ten Commandments for Homeschooling Moms
Maybe I'm not such a bad mom after all....
I'm happy to report that today Kathrynne ate a few peas, a little bowl of homemade applesauce, a few bites of banana, and a handful of raisins. It is pretty bad when such simple achievements make you feel so accomplished as a mom! In other Kathrynne news, she now has around five new signs and is working on quite a few more, mimics a lot of words and says some consistently, started standing up by herself this week, and should be taking a few steps in the not-too-distant future. Thanks to everyone's encouragement, I'm also working on training her to stay close by me where I can see her at all times. This has helped to foster a closer bond between the two of us and is also causing me to be more consistent in training her. In addition, I am spending a lot more time investing in her and teaching her since she is always close beside me. Oh, we have so much fun together! I just had to share this adorable picture I took of her today... 
Of Pregnancy Tests and Funny Stories
With that kind of title, someone might get to thinking I have something to announce. But, this post is not not about any pregnancy test I took but about my friend Becky Miller's hilarious pregnancy test story. Go read it yourself.
I laughed out loud reading it (which is something very uncustomary when I am reading something to myself!), then proceeded to recount it to both my mom and my husband, and thought I should link to it here as well (Hope you don't mind, Becky!). By the way, congratulations to Becky and her husband -- I know I already said it twice, but I'm still so happy for you. :)
Please Pray
 I don't make it around the blogosphere often enough so this is somewhat belated, but I just found out some very heart-wrenching news from Scott and Crystal Starrs concerning their 9-year-old daughter's recent diagnosis with thyroid cancer. If the Lord brings the Starrs family to your mind, please pray for them. Crystal is a blog reader here and a kindred spirit. I especially feel a kinship with her since we both share the same name and both have younger sisters named Gretchen. Let us uphold this dear family in our prayers. Crystal posted an update here. Please stop by her blog and let them know you are praying for them.
A Heads Up and Apology
I enjoy reading your blog. Just wanted to tell you that I noticed in your sidebar an advertisement for the book Perfect Madness. Not sure if you have any control over it or not, but that's the worst book ever LOL. Have you read it? I saw the author on Nightline last year and she has no biblical point of view. Just thought you might like to know.
Blessings,
Kelli Kelli: Thanks for letting me know! I do have control over what ads are on my sidebar and I let that one "slip through the cracks" -- I checked it out a small bit and couldn't find out much on it and so I just let it go up. I don't endorse any of the ads on my blogads sidebar, but I do try to make sure there is nothing offensive and so end up rejecting almost as many as I allow. Thanks for letting us know about the book. Has anyone else heard anything about it? I'd love to know. I couldn't tell anything from the reviews I skimmed. The ad only runs for a few more days (I can't cancel it once it starts running) so please don't run out and buy the book unless you are going to give a Biblical rebuttal of it. And, I'll try to do better about watching which ads I let through in the future. If you ever have a caution about any ad that is up there, please do let me know! I appreciate everyone looking out for me! Instead of Perfect Madness (maybe I need to get a review copy now so I can rebut it myself!), I'm reading Feminist Fantasies and I have to say, it is excellent. I've only read the first little bit of it, but hope to have it finished in the next few weeks and I'll post a review.
Don't Forget!
If you are a homeschooling mom looking for some help in the home organization department, don't forget to enter our contest -- Entry deadline is tonight!
"I've Not Seen This Point of View..."
Dear Crystal,
I have been reading your blog for quite awhile now but never posted. However, I think that I have something to add to this discussion from a perspective that not many young women know of yet.
I am 30 years old, married for 11 years and the mother of 2 children ages 7 & 9 that I homeschool. I live in rual Tennessee. My husband owns his own business and I am happy and content to be a stay at home mom. All of this sounds pretty normal compared to alot of the people that read and participate in your blog.
Well, here's the difference. Since I was 28 years old, I have been the caretakers of my parents. When I was 28, my mother was diagnosed with congestive heart failure. My father had already been fighting Parkinson's Disease for many years. Through the course of her illness, my mother completly lost her mental abilities. We moved in with mom and dad because they were unable to care for themselves. In the end, my mother was in diapers that I changed, she ate food that I spoon fed her and she had no idea who I was. She got confused and was convinced that she had given birth to my daughter and was angry with me because she thought I was some type of interloper. It was hard, be we made it through. Mother died in March of 2004.
Now, I am my father's full time caretaker. We have good days and not so good days, but after doing this for a few years now, I feel like I have a handle on it and it is no longer a shock to my system.
I guess the reason that I'm sharing this is that at our age - women in their 20's & 30's - we define ourselves as, "wife, mother, and daughter." There is so much more to that word daughter than many of you know. But, it is coming. There will be a day when you will be the parent of your parent. It is a whole new dimension of life and a whole new direction in your walk with God. It really wouln't hurt young women to give some thought and prayer to this part of their lives before they actually get there. I know you can't know the feelings you will feel when the time comes, but prayers asking for wisdom when the time comes will not hurt anyone.
Your life as a mother will probably not be extended to just your children. For alot of you, it will at some point, be extended to your parents as well. (It's amazing how much of your parenting skills you will use with your parents.) There is nothing that will set your priorities in order or humble you as much as washing your fathers hair because he can no longer do it.
I had not seen this point of view on your blog before and I just wanted to share as it is a reality for alot of Christian women who strive for a "rich, home centered life."
Sincerely,
Deanne
Surprised at the Negative Reponses
Hi Crystal,
I just came across your blog through a link to your post on feminism. I should begin by mentioning that I'm somewhat surprised that you received any negative responses to your post (only because I couldn't figure out what a feminist would be doing reading your blog in the first place, lol). Nonetheless, I just wanted to send you a word of encouragement. In our current society, we need an army of conservative God-honouring Christian women like you, who are willing to fearlessly, shamelessly and uncompromisingly stand for the truth of Scripture. I'm a firm believer in the fact that feminism (with its ultimate roots in sin, selfishness, and rebellion) is one of Satan's central tools in our modern age for attacking God's pattern for marriage and the family. Thus, keep up the good work in promoting and defending wholesome Biblical values.
In Him,
Sam
Camera-Happy
I've not done a good job of responding to comments recently -- I am reading them and do appreciate them, I've just been having trouble finding time to comment and answer questions, in addition to the blogging I've been wanting to do. I was a little camera-happy with Kathrynne yesterday and had to share...  Breakfast time -- the only time of the day she gets to eat bread without having to try and eat vegetables first. Definitely her favorite. :)   I'm a big girl! This a beautiful tote that Nichole so graciously custom-made for me. Kathrynne and I both love it! If you are interested in having Nichole make a purse for you, or would like to see some of the purses she's made, please check out her blog here. All ready for bed -- these are Kathrynne's new jammies and I just had to post a picture!
Idealistic or Faithful?
 Guest Blog by Glenys Hicks - a wife, mother, and grandmother from Australia
I was rejoicing in my friend’s engagement. She was sharing her dreams of the future with me and showing me her hope chest. She was very much in love with her fiancé and had everything planned to perfection. We discussed her wedding plans, and our views and ideals on marriage itself. One of the questions that came up was if she would continue to work once the children came, and the appropriation of funds coming into the marriage. I was delighted to hear that my friend intended to be a stay-at-home mother once the children were born.
Prior to that, they were going to have his money and her money in separate accounts with her keeping a secret account for provision for herself in case of marital problems necessitating her setting up a home for herself and the children. I expressed my concern that she should see this as a necessary step when entering into marriage. She responded with saying that one never knew what the future would hold and it was unrealistic to believe that just because she was married, there would be a guarantee of happiness. She intended to be prepared for any event that should arise. I told her that it was foolhardy to enter marriage -- a Christian marriage at that -- with one eye on the altar and the other on the divorce court.
I commented that it seemed to me to be a failing of trust on her part and also that it was in fact laying a foundation of mistrust and deceit in her marriage right from the beginning. Her retort was that I was just being idealistic and that being left without financial security in the event of a marriage failure was not on her agenda. She could not see my point of view so I let it drop- God would have to deal with her heart. I felt saddened by her cynical attitude. To enter marriage with the view that it may very well end in divorce is a tragic view and a distortion of the covenantal view that Christ has for marriage.
Marriage is to be built on trust. If there are problems, then they should be worked through. The marriage is already failed in the context of trust if one of the parties has a parachute to use to bail out with when or if the going gets tough. The area of trust has been compromised already by my friend keeping her account secret- she has allowed doubt and deceit to cloud her mind. One cannot enter a covenant with lies and doubts and plans for self preservation instead of trust in God. Not in a Christian marriage. The whole concept of marriage is built on trust and accountability to each other. I do not think it is idealistic or unrealistic. I think it is a basic principle of marriage that cannot be compromised.
Issues of doubt and fear should be ironed out long before the nuptials. For to be double-minded about your commitment in your marriage is to invite trouble and failure. The heart of the faithful is strong- but where there is any weakness in either spouse’s commitment there will be not only lack of trust but lack of blessing. My prayer is that the LORD will speak to my friend’s heart and give her the commitment and confidence that are hers as she trusts Him and her husband to build and bless their marriage. But first she must let go of the parachute and show herself faithful. Happiness can come only through true commitment and faith.
© Glenys Robyn Hicks 2005
Frugality, Riches, and Contentment
Guest Blog by Sherrin Ward from AustraliaIn the town where John Adams grew up, his parents lived no differently from their ancestors. Their furnishings were 6 wooden chairs, a table, several beds, a looking glass, a Bible, and three silver spoons that were prized possessions. “A hat would descend from father to son, and for fifty years make its regular appearance at meetings” (page 33, John Adams, excerpt from a letter). Hard work and frugality were considered necessary virtues. This seemed a personal challenge when I read it. In a culture where "new is better"and "more is better", people have ten times more resources than what their ancestors raised ten children with. Yet they belive they cannot afford children. They call themselves poor because they cannot afford the latest technology or a better car. A while ago I decided on my own definition of riches: a roof over my head (owned, rented, or given), food, clothes, and some money to give away. To that I'd better add a good mattress and a good chair, without which I'd find it even more difficult to manage my back pain. With this definition, I'll probably be rich for life in Australia! In a commentary on Proverbs, David Hubbard argues that having enough to eat, clothes, and something to give, is God's definition of riches in Proverbs. Whenever I'm tempted to say "I can't afford ___" or "I'm poor", I remind myself of my definition! I also believe the Bible defines a godly partner and children as riches and gifts of God. So if I ever receive a godly husband and children, I'll be super rich! The story of John Adams' family also reminds me to be content. It must have required great contentment in simplicity to continue with the same hat for 50 years. No need for excitement and change in the externals. God also calls us to be content with our situation in life. So if God never gives me a husband or kids, or my own home, or a pain free back, or a trip around the world, I pray I'll accept and embrace what he does give. Each day, each hour, each moment, giving up my ideas of what life should be in exchange for the reality that he gives. As I've gone on in my Christian life, he has increasingly shown me how to do this. I used to be insecure and unhappy about being single, but now I rarely care. I used to grieve that my back injury kept me from so many things I longed to do, but now I am mainly content with what is possible. God has taught me to take more delight in what he has given, and in himself. For perhaps the central quality of true riches is contentment. A simple stillness of soul, trusting God that whatever he brings is right. On that theme, an eighteenth-century w0man who called herself "A Poor Methodist Woman" wrote a poem that says it all: I do not know when I have had happier times in my soul than when I have been sitting at work, with nothing before me but a candle and a white cloth and hearing no sound but that of my own breath; with God in my soul and heaven in my eye. I rejoice in being exactly what I am - a creature capable of loving God, and who, as long as God lives, must be happy. I get up and look a while out the window. I gaze at the moon and stars, the work of an Almighty Hand. I think of the grandueur of the universe and then sit down and think myself one of the happiest beings in it. Visit Sherrin's Blog.
The Long-Awaited Book
I am finally starting to pull together the long-awaited book of testimonies and encouragement for young women who are living "under the roof of their father" seeking to expand his vision and living a joyous, fulfilled, home-centered life. I am still looking for a few others to contribute to this book. Thanks to everyone who has been so patient with me on this. I had planned to start and finish this months ago and then too many other things got in the way and I never even got it started, beyond collecting some testimonies. If you would be interested in contributing to this book, please email me for further details.
A Rich, Home-Centered Life
Don't miss Homemakerang's post on Grocery Shopping and Living on One Income. Since we've been having some interesting discussions on Biblical submission, be sure that you read Carmon's excellent thoughts on this subject. Ever wondered what the life of a Prairie Muffin looks like? Check out a Day in Carmon's Life - she disaproves the theory that you cannot have a rich, home-centered life. I love this comment of hers: If I get a chance, in the context of our discussion about a women’s role, I will continue to attempt to explain the richness of a woman’s home-centered life, a life which is not a confining, reclusive existence, but one where her creativity can be fully expressed and a sacrificial life of service to her family and others brings joy and adventure. Those who characterize it otherwise have very limited imaginations. Do you have a rich, home-centered life? If so, tell us about it! What makes it so? We need to be dispelling those myths that being a homemaker means half your brain is"tied behind your back!" Also, if you've recently posted something on homemaking or the joys of being a wife, mother, or daughter, please comment and leave the link to your post, or email it my way.
Children and Vegetables
 Okay, I feel like I am forever asking stupid questions, but everytime I ask them, you moms never fail to give me great ideas. So, Stupid Question #891: How do you get your kids to eat vegetables?Kathrynne thinks vegetables and almost all fruits were the worst things created and I'm about at my wit's end on getting her to eat them. She loves bread and sweets and would be happy to eat bread and potatoes and cookies every meal -- lots of them. She likes yogurt, too. But, vegetables are another story. Any suggestions? The only way I can currently get any down her is to mix them with yogurt or put them in soup. We started her out with sweet potatoes and carrots, which she really never liked, but she would eat a few bits of sweet potatoes on a good day. We gradually added in other foods, most of which she didn't like either. But, once we hit bread, she was sold. Now, that's the only thing she wants. She begs for it every meal and spits out anything which is remotely vegetable-looking. I really don't know how to deal with a picky eater since all of my siblings always ate almost everything they were given with no trouble. I'm glad she likes wholegrains (the bread we do give to her is almost always homemade and good for her) but she needs to eat other things! Help!
Struggling With Homeschool Organization?
 Now there's help!
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CONTEST!
If you are a homeschooler and a blogger and would like to win a free Homeschool Filing System, email me your name and address and blog URL and you will be entered into the contest. You must be willing to blog a review about the system once you receive it in order to qualify and send Debbie the link to your blog entry once you have written it. All entries received by this Monday night, will be entered into a drawing and I will randomly select five winners to be sent a brand-new Homeschool Filing System, courtesy of Debbie Jones!
30 Minute Rolls
A few people have asked for my roll recipe recently, so I'm posting it here for everyone.
This is the best and easiest roll recipe we have ever found. I have literally made thousands of these! If you do not have time to make bread, you can at least make rolls!
Mix in a large bowl: 3½ cups warm water 1 cup oil ½-3/4 cup honey 4 Tbsp. dry yeast Then add: 3 eggs 1 Tbsp. salt 10-10 ½ cups flour (any combination of white and/or whole-wheat) 3 Tbsp. dough enhancer (optional) Knead about 5 minutes. Shape into rolls. Place on ungreased cookie sheets. Let rise for 10-20 minutes. Bake for 9-10 minutes at 425°.
"I JUST checked" is bogus!
Now you get the joy of knowing why the phrase "I JUST checked" is bogus. Never works. They are quick as a wink, and faster than that. I (finally) wised up after my HIGHLY spirited and incredibly curious #3. lol I'm slow, but once I get it, I got it! They stay with ME. If she does that good with lipstick, you should just let her help with those projects you were finishing. ;) What a cutie! -J.M. J.M., your comment was accidentally deleted before posting, so I thought I'd post it here. This might sound like a dumb question, but any suggestions on how to keep her with me? She won't stay put for longer than a nanosecond most times. I really try to involve her in most everything I do as much as possible, but she likes to play by herself some and I don't mind as long as she isn't destroying things. But, I'd like to be able to have her in the same room as me but I can't seem to get her to stay in any one room. Suggestions or ideas?
Do Women Need Protectors?
" I need a protector..." Perhaps you could share with us feminists what exactly you think you need protecting from. Whenever you write about needing protection I'm sure there are others who are just as confused about your meaning. Protection from a criminal? A bullet will hurt a man the same as a woman. Protection from a natural disaster? Fire, water, and wind will harm both male and female alike. Protection from immorality? Men don’t have moral superiority to women. So what do you need protection from? Maybe you could do an entire post on it. To me it makes no sense, almost like it is just something that sounds good so you write it. Sorry. -A
Nope, it doesn't just sound good so I write it. I mean it. :) God has set up my husband as my protective head. I didn't make this system up, God did. Eph 5:23 - For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
I need protection in every area of my life. Not only is my husband to physically protect me from harm and danger as best as he can, he is also to spiritually protect me. Women need the protection of a man. We are the "weaker vessel." 1Pe 3:7 - Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
1Pe 3:5 - For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
I believe with all my heart that I can trust God to work through my husband. My heart trusts in my husband. He is my leader, he wants to protect me from evil and from harm. I need his wisdom and his guidance and his leadership. He is ultimately responsible before God for his family. Am I the only one who feels like I need a protector? If you feel like you need a protector (be that your father, your husband, or another authority should you not have either of those), please comment and tell us. Also, why do you need a protector? What do you, as a woman, need protection from.
Just Because You Asked...
  I hesitated to post pictures lest anyone think me a terrible mom, but, since so many people requested it, here are pictures of our little lipstick-painted culprit. Her sweatshirt was brand-new and bright white without any stains before the incident. Hey, at least she seemed to put the bulk of the liptstick on her lips. :) I didn't take a picture of our bedroom so I'll just leave that mess to your imagination!
The votes are in!
Congratulations to Amanda C. for winning the Valentine's contest with her creative and inspiring entry "Operation Love Language." Thank you to everyone who participated. I was so excited to hear of your wonderful plans to bless and encourage others and I was grateful that I could be a small conduit of motivating some to selflessly give to others on Valentine's Day. It warmed my heart and blessed me and I know it blessed so many others. I think we'll have to make this a yearly tradition!
A Word to the Feminists
After all the not-so-lovely comments I received from feminists and their co-horts to this post (all of which I opted not to post because this blog is not a forum for anti-Biblical, anti-family rhetoric), I'm seriously wondering if these women have ever met anything but a dysfunctional family. Sometimes I wish some of these individuals could just spend a few hours with some of the wonderful, happy Christian families I know. Maybe they would change their tune. I truly don't think they believe it is possible that I can submit to my husband and have a wonderful marriage. Newsflash: It is not only possible, it is the only way to have a wonderful marriage. I'm so happy and blessed to be a help meet to my husband instead of trying to fend for myself out there in this world. I need a protector and not only that, I want a protector. I need a husband who is my head, who | | |
