The rewards far outweigh the sacrifices
There are sometimes when I read an article and it is so upsetting I hardly know where to begin. This article was just one of those.Susan sent it to me yesterday and I wanted to blog about it immediately, but thought it best to "cool off" for a bit before I posted anything I might regret! :) Not only could I prove each point dead wrong, but the whole article is so skewed, so selfish, and just plain silly. I mean, are those really the best reasons this author can come up with to stay single?? It is so telling of how far we've lost perspective when the whole basis for not marrying revolves around ME. Do we really think that plasma TVs, exotic trips, more money, and a great career will give us lasting fulfillment and happiness?
The problem lies in society's fundamental view of marriage. Marriage is not seen a beautiful, blessed gift from God where two parties join themselves together to glorify the Lord in a way that they never could were they single. Marriage is most often seen as bondage and stress which is no wonder when the majority of marriages today could not be labelled "good marriages."
Why are marriages in such disrepair? I believe it is a direct result of the humanistic philosophy which has steadily crept in and permeated everything we do, think, or are. "It's all about me."
Newsflash: A good marriage is never "all about me." It involves laying aside selfishness and pride. It means putting someone else and their needs before your own. It means turning your back on the whole worldly concept of me-centeredness. A good marriage is work; it doesn't just happen.
If you go into marriage hoping it will "make you happy," you've missed the whole point and I can very well guarantee you won't have a good marriage. However, if you and your spouse go into marriage desiring to glorify the Lord, lay down your wants, yourself, and your desires for those of your spouse, and you commit to give 150% to your marriage, you will reap enormous rewards. Rewards which authors of articles like the one mentioned above could probably never even begin to imagine.
Susan listed a few of these in her rebuttal post:
1. You have someone to admire you for more than just your body, someone to stay by your side when you're old and wrinkled and no longer care about looking perpetually 21.The world might think it's a lot of work and sacrifice, but believe me, the rewards far outweigh the sacrifices.
2. You're more likely to achieve great things. I totally disagree with the article's point #2, and I've seen data to prove my point. Men are far more likely to do well in business if they have a supportive wife and family. And women? What greater impact can you have on the world than to raise its future inhabitants?
3. You have someone beside you to share life's burdens. A cord of three strands is not easily broken. Pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up.
4. The living cost for one person, versus averaging the cost for two people in one household, is far more. Economically, it is far more economical to share living costs. And children that may come along later? They're cheaper by the dozen :-D.
5. You are given a picture of Christ's love for His church, which is Holy and exclusive. Husbands have the opportunity to be a vessel of God's love to their wives, loving them, cherishing them, and laying their lives down for them, as Christ laid down His life for the church. Wives have the opportunity to serve their husbands and families as the church serves Christ, in loving devotion and honor.
6. You have a life-size teddy bear, and you have someone to challenge you intellectually. You have someone to work with you to solve life's puzzles and to seek out new knowledge with you.
7. You have a shoulder to lean on when you are down, and a listening ear to hear your troubles. You have open arms when you need comfort.
8. You get to live with your best friend.
9. You have a partner on life's journey.
10. You get to spend the rest of your life getting to know someone inside and out.
posted by Crystal Paine at 11:03 AM
31 Comments:
Good for you Crystal...marriage is one of the greatest gifts (and sacrifices) there are.
Oh I believe you, the rewards do outweigh the sacrifices. I don't think it is wrong to be single, or better to be married, not at all.
I just can't read articles like this, not now. I am nineteen so I am still young... I have never dated, have never been kissed. And for a long time that was fine...
But
Oh
But
How horrible can it be to be alone. I love... I love... I love someone so much... I could have gotten married after just weeks of contact... I am not loved in return. Right now... being single is so terrible... Yes... to cry about my love is selfish too.
But oh the reasons you gave for getting married are so beautiful... and to know I won't have someone... not yet (I could never be with someone I don't truly and fully love)... it hurts...
I wish I had never seen your post about this for it reminds me of what I long for, what I miss
J.
Yeah....I'd love to look as good as I do now for a long time.
But that's just a stupid thought.
I'm more blessed to have a husband who cuddles me on the couch on Saturday mornings that I don't have to work, that doesn't say anything when I'm still laying around and 'taking it easy' with a book (or a textbook). I'm more blessed to have him and be able to call from work saying "Could the banana bread fairy please come tonight?" (he makes a better banana bread, and its Crystal's recipe he uses!)...I'm more blessed to have him listen to my stomach, in the vain attempt to hear our little Peanut rockin' around in my womb. I'm more blessed to have someone who will 'go with me, and hold on to me tighter...' as we get older and older.
Yeah...I'll miss looking 25.
NOT.
Thanks for posting this, Crystal!
That article is insane! Talk about a selfish, one-sided argument. Yikes! There is no way someone like that could ever know a truly wonderful marriage relationship (unless they completely changed their way of thinking). It's so sad...
J.! Hang in there!
I know I probably can't be of great comfort because I am married, however, let me say you are better off waiting for God's best, than taking something second-rate. And remember, what you wait for, you appreciate more! When you feel alone, remember that you have a wonderful, loving Heavenly Father who loves you more than any earthly man could. Marriage is to be a picture of our Heavenly relationship so when you feel as if your heart will break because you don't have a "special someone" yet, don't forget you do have a Special Someone who will never, ever leave you or forsake you.
Keep looking up, stay busy doing the Lord's work, throw your life into serving and giving to others, do all you can to prepare yourself for the future, and don't give up hope. God has a wonderful, beautiful plan for your life.
By the way, you never know what might be just around the corner... But don't let your longing take away your living. Much love to you and all the other unmarrieds out there who are patiently waiting on the Lord!
I hope you can read all that in the warm, gentle spirit it was written in and that it doesn't sound uncaring. I always hesitate to post something like this particular article because I sincerely do not want to cause pain to those who would love to be married and aren't. However, the world gives such an awful picture of marriage much of the time and I can't help but speak up and share from my heart on this beautiful gift!
While I definitely agree that marriage is far more fulfilling than I ever found single life to be, being single isn't a curse. Instead of looking at that article and feeling offended, try looking at it from the author's perspective. Perhaps she's simply trying to find the positives in singledom. While I don't agree with all her points, especially the one about premarital sex, we can't expect a fallen world who doesn't know Jesus to live by Christian standards.
Also, keep in mind that not all people are called to marriage. The apostle Paul, in fact, encouraged people to remain single for much the same reason given in that article: to accomplish more (for Christ).
Marriage really isn't the end-all be-all to life, but it is something nice to hope for.
Andrea,
Your so funny! I'm 25, too. I actually think I look better than when I was single.
Crystal,
That article floored me. What a bunch of clueless people! Susan did an excellent job refuting it.
Amen! Thanks Crystal! I love my married life!
After reading this article, I am sad for the author. It sounds like it was written by a very confused, lonely, self absorbed and wounded non-Christian.
What ridiculous, selfish, pathetic arguments the author laid out! I laughed outright at some of the 'benefits' of being alone - they are so silly. Pardon me, but they might as well have listed such perks of singlehood as flossing your teeth with your own hair, passing gas loudly whenever you want, cooking top ramen 10 nights in a row if you want, keeping a used kleenex collection, seeing how long you can stand to go without vaccuuming or taking out the garbage, etc. What a joy! You can stay in a perpetual state of adolescence because no one can tell YOU what to do!
Yeah, that must be why there are so many online services for singles....because people LOVE being alone. Gimme a break. The author isn't fooling anyone....including themselves.
Mrs. Callard
Crystal-
Oh my goodness, I read that article just now, and I am just as irritated as you! I can't believe how selfish and ridiculous their reasoning is! I guess maybe they are trying to make people feel better about themselves, but I really don't think happiness is based on being married or single at all, but on being fulfilled in God first! However, after being married only a short time, I can already see the innumerable benefits and blessings of this gift God has given!
To respond to J:
Don't get discouraged! God has a plan and purpose! I was 22 before I ever dated or had ever been kissed, so I know how you feel! And that man that dated me for the first time and kissed me for the first time is my precious husband! I would not trade that for the world! I know it can seem like it's taking forver, but God brought him at just the right time, and I am so glad God protected until my prince came! He will do the same for you!
J. , I have written articles on this subject in the past, but Crystal is absolutely right! Please don't think about what you do not have right now as even when you have it it will not satisfy you if you cannot be satisfied right where you are now.
Marriage is a wonderful thing, but it is not all love and kisses. Things can happen to someone you love that make it so hard to keep going day after day too, if you do not have complete satisfaction in the life God has called you to be in now.
Sometimes it is a desperation to get married that can scare people away also, just on a more practical level. I think you will find that if you start enjoying life, pouring yourself into things that fulfill your life through serving others, you will find yourself genuinely happy and not dwelling on the fact that you are alone and if it is His will, God can bring that person that is right for you at the right time into your life.
19 is very young to get married anyway......= ) I wish I had waited until I was a bit older!
I totally agree with you Crystal. All I could think about reading the article was "how selfish". I really think when people who "choose to be single" are old and gray and alone they are going to regret their decision to not have a life partner and children to keep them company in their old age.
Not to say that being single is bad. The Apostle Paul said that it was good to remain single, but it's the motivations for doing so that are so off in this article. If you choose to remain single because you can better glorify God that way, then more power too you.
I'm just going to throw this out there as "iron sharpening iron". It is interesting to me that all of the comments so far about this post are against everything this article says. Keep in mind that all of our perceptions of what the author is saying may be skewed by our own circumstances.
I am a strong Christian, and I too, see that people these days have a more negative view of marriage than what God intended because of their self-centered nature. But please do not think that all marriages, even Christian marriages are so perfect that every one of these points can be refuted.
I can see both sides of the coin here as I am not in a perfect marriage. There are some truths I can totally relate to in the article.
So I suppose my point is in all of this, written with the utmost respect and love for my christian sisters, is to remember that not all marriages, even Christian marriages are not so perfect as it appears is the case with most of the commenters here. Married women can be lonelier than single women because they all aren't married to their "best friends" due to a number of reasons. Married women do have more housework too. And if they don't have the joy of the happy marriage, it does become a chore.
Oh, we so need Christ in our marriages, don't we? Marriage is a gift from God, and if both the husband and the wife in every message would seek a wholehearted relationship with God, every one of us could refute this article with the passion that you did. I'm so happy for you that you must have a great marriage. Just remember, there are many of us that don't have what you have.
I hope this came across okay. I just wanted to express the other side of the coin.
Hi Crystal, as much as I like your blog I just wonder - if you are so satisfied in marriage and feel that the way you live is simply the best then WHY do you always have to defend your views and prove others wrong???
The article doesn't say you have to stay single forever, anyway. I do believe that marriage is the best but I don't have a problem agreeing that there might be some advantages in being single.
I am from Europe, maybe we are just more tolerant here.
Pavlina
Hmmm... it seems that there is another (Biblical) side to this coin-
I Corinthians 7:8, 9, 28, 34:
I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide (in their unmarried state) - But if they cannot contain themselves, let them marry-and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; nevertheless the married shall have trouble in the flesh, and I would spare you. There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
Anonymous, way to go! Your comments-
"Also, keep in mind that not all people are called to marriage. The apostle Paul, in fact, encouraged people to remain single for much the same reason given in that article: to accomplish more (for Christ). Marriage really isn't the end-all be-all to life, but it is something nice to hope for... "
..offers Godly encouragement to those of us who are CALLED to the holy vocation of singleness, whether at present or for a lifetime, and affirms the true spirit of this subject in Scripture.
There was a lot of selfishness in that article, yes. But I remember LOVING being single (even though I didn't live at all like the author describes). I was just perfectly satisfied to be how God made me at that time. And, remember, God's word tells us that being single means we can accomplish MORE - just like the author said. The author is right about that. I'll take my wife and mommy job any day. And I don't miss being single --- but I did love it. While the author was all about selfishness ... singleness is a gift just as much as being married. I loved being single and I love being married and raising four boys.
If you're "stuck in singleness", you might as well try to find the positives in it! That article just happens to do it through a worldly viewpoint, however some of those could be 'recycled' and legitimately used by somebody like...me!
Like usual: Judging from some of the comments I received, (most of which I didn't post as I'm in no mood for a heated debate over this), people misunderstood what the point of this article was.
So, let me clarify for Pavlina and others:
It was not to say anything about I'm so perfect or I have such a great marriage or marriage is the only way to go or singles are just missing out big time. The point was to hold up marriage in a Biblical light, instead of denigrating it as the world loves to do. Like I made clear, marriage is work, it takes lots of sacrifice, and I don't think a really good marriage is possible without the Lord Jesus Christ as the Center and core of the marriage.
I most certainly think there is nothing wrong with enjoying being single - I enjoyed singleness just as I enjoy marriage. "Where ever you are, be all there," is my motto. You can spend all your life wishing you were in a different season, but you'll invariably spend all your life doing that - wishing you were in a different season. It's easy to spending time pining away what we don't have instead of looking at the positives.
I'd most certainly LOVE to see someone write a Biblical rebuttal to that article on great reasons to be single which don't involve a me-centered, selfish mentality. There are TONS of them and that's what my book, Handmaidens of the Lord, is packed with... Encouragement for unmarried women to make the most of this season of their life!
God bless all of you - whatever season He has placed you in!
Crystal,
You are so right, I cannot add one thing. I really appreciate the substance and balance that your blog brings.
I meant to add for J: I was once where you are. In love with someone who didn't love me in return. I prayed about it, as I know you are doing. I thought I was right. I spent 3 years in this condition. Sad and lonely on the inside, but putting on a face. Only time has given me a different perspective. I found a note in my Bible the other day from a dear, dear, friend. It said, "Dear God, Don't let Amy settle for the good, when she can have the best." God heard her prayer. What I thought was the best wasn't. I met my husband of over 14 years and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I wouldn't have believed this 20 years ago as my heart was in love with another.
I was going to post and defend Crystal (not that she "needs" defending, but you all know what I mean) and I saw that she has explained her reasoning pretty much the same way that I would have, in regards to how I interpreted her commentary and her intentions.
I am a bit surprised that this piece struck such an odd chord. I showed it to my little sister, who is trying her best to glorify the Lord with her single life. She was as disgusted as I - a married person - was. We both interpreted it (as most of you did) as a selfish view of single-dom that had nothing to do with living a life of faith and morality, which obviously can be done if one does not have a spouse!
Our jaws actually dropped at the "sex is better!" statement. I suppose we shouldn't be surprised, but is this REALLY what our society and the media has come to? That it is just ASSUMED that everyone engages in sex outside of the sacrament of marriage? That alone was enough to make my blood boil.
Also, I do want to respond to something you said, Pavlina . . .
As Christians, we are not called to idly sit by and be content that WE know Christ. We MUST speak up and spread His Good News and His Gospel. It is not trying to "prove others wrong" - rather, it is sharing and promoting the joyful Word and the great mercy of the Lord! As our pastor said just yesterday, "To keep our faith silent . . . how selfish and unloving of us!"
Thanks for posting this, Crystal.
I can't believe how far down the drain our world is going, that someone would unashamedly write an article like that.
While I certainly agree with you and others who have commented that being single is not necessarily a negative thing or a "curse"-- in fact, God gives it to some as a gift-- this article was completely selfish and very, very unbiblical in its reasoning.
But-- sometimes reading articles like that helps us not to take for granted the light God has given us in His Word!
I know there are alot of hard marriages out there and I didn't want to post about hard marriages and how much more wonderful it would be to be single, because I do not feel as a Christian we should be focusing on what we cannot have. Some of those things are true as a single person, there are wonderfult hings about being married, i could post some heartaches on being married too, but I do not feel it would profit all of us! I think that as the scripture also says Godliness with contentment is great gain!
I do not have many of the wonderful points of marriage, but you know God has taught me alot through it and I work hard on rejoicing in the struggles rather than wishing I was never married!
I do agree not everyone is called to be married, but some of those reasons....especially the s*x one....
So, is that the middle of the coin?
- I would not be so quick to slam the author. The "advantages" that she cites for singleness may sound a little smug, granted, but in reality, a lot of her ideas are correct, at face value. There IS a lot more "freedom" and "flexibility" and leisure for "self development" in the single state.
I am often in awe of the self-sacrifices that my married girl friends are called to make, while my single friends enjoy a comparative degree of personal discretion in their lives. I like aussietigger's point:
If you're single, accentuate the positives and enjoy it!
http://cultivatinghome.blogspot.com/
I also responded to this article...
Hannah
Let's just face it. We live in a society where the popular culture promotes selfishness. That article while sadly self-centered, doesn't surprise me. It is very unfourtunate that the promotion of pre-martial sex is so blatant. Our popular culture does nothing but promote and pretty much push NOTHING but ME ME ME mentality. The thought processes is: If you get pregnant just abort it, if you don't like how your marriage is turning out, just divorce them, someone else can raise your kids...YOU need a carear...ect. It is all very demeaning to us as women and individuals. It undermines the very core of us as humans. If everyone following this lifestyle would wake up and see the joke is on them, it would be incredible. The whole modern world would shift. I can say all of this with a very clear consince because I used to live this way. I used to believe in this warped mentality of women choosing to carry babies, carears before kids, and sex with whoever as long as you use protection (???) But one day I realized why I wasn't being blessed and that I was living out of God's will for me. It wasn't an overnight thing...it happened slowly. It was a process of putting my needs behind and putting others first and God foremost. I have lived that life of emptiness and destruction. I feel sorry for those who walk around trying to fill the bottomless pit with things or casual sex. Only Christ and his love can fill the hole in our soul.
Married or Single.
Keep up the good work for our Lord my friends.
P.S. Please excuse my mispellings I was up last night late nursing my little baby girl and got up early to make a breakfast for my husband...:)
Bethy Sue
This person is obviously not a Christian and undoubtedly a 'single' person who is raving on about all of the things she feels are so grand about being a smart, single, 'worldly' person.
Regardless, the specified points she listed are mostly true if read and seen as just that-facts.
1. We all probably had a better body before marriage and babies, just a fact.
2. We probably could achieve great things without the responsibility of a spouse or children. But we have different priorities.
3. Certainly there is less housework for a single person rather than a married one with chidren. That's just a given and again we don't mind having this responsibility.
4. As a single person you don't have to answer to a spouse for any money you spend. True.
5. Better sex when single---this isn't even suppose to be an option for a Christian person, so I won't waste my time defending this point.
6. Better rested and SMARTER when single?? That's debatable! It takes age and wisdom to make anybody smart where it matters.
7. Less depressed? Questionable...
8. Better friendships?? Maybe "more" friends when you are single but I wouldn't think "better."
9. Travel? It totally depends on finances and what a person thinks is important and their own likes and dislikes. This person just obviously likes to travel...I'm a homebody so this doesn't bother me. lol
She is rather straightforward in the fact that she thinks married people are less interesting and less intelligent. Which is why I think this article has made everybody so mad. Me too.
10. Know yourself better and what you want out of a relationship?? This one seems totally out of context, and even contradictive.
As a married woman I could also defend and list the things that make being married better, just as Susan did, but this doesn't change the facts, it just defines one over the other.
We don't live in a perfect society, we live in one that 'is' "all about me" to an extent, even in marriages. But slowly things are being brought to light, even if just in our small circles of women who do uphold and seek a godly way of life whether single or married. And the seeds that are planted by those of us who value having a godly marriage, will begin to blossom. The bible says that His Word will not return to Him void. So we have to believe that what we do for His glory is going to thrive and grow.
The footnote says, Dawn Yanek is the author of "How to Find the Right Person in 90 Days." Now although I haven't read this book, it seems to imply "finding the right marriage partner", but I doubt it, in light of "Reason #5". Even so, it seems a little contradictory to this article, so alas she must be throwing out 'whims' whenever the notion strikes her.
I wouldn't let her article upset me, because this is just one person's opinion. And we have a world full of people like this who throw their whims to the wind. If anything, the article just shows she has done her research, because nothing she mentions is really original-like I said most of them are just facts. There are a lot of people out there who are indeed selfish and see no wrong whatsoever in it! She could have very well listed most of these things as reasons not to have children. Again some of the "facts" would be true. That doesn't make them right or wrong, just facts, whether we like it or not. All in all, people have their opinion and we have ours, and God will let us know where and when to plant seeds and they 'will' fall upon receptive ground. We have to believe that. But we don't need to waste our time arguing with people who are unreceptive. That would in a sense be casting our pearls before swine.
Dear Readers,
Although I am single, I totally agree with Crystal.I have almost been married before, but realized that it was not a match that God made.My goal in life is Phil.3:10...that I may know Him ...
for some of us God has chosen marriage on this journey and perhaps for some of us God sees we are better being single. Either way, if our goal is to know Him, then we will be fulfilled. And who knows, for some of us ,perhaps we are in a preparation process.God will give us the grace for whatever He calls us to. But may I tell you as someone who is in her forties and never been married, I am content in the Lord and I know He wants to present in the singles as well as marriages ,people who aren't just marking time to get married to feel loved or feel they fit in. No, that kind of thinking leads to the problems in marriage or any relationship. Like, Crystal said , we are to give 150%, in other words, unconditional love to all at all times.And it is so possible when we give the Lord as the first place in our hearts. as it says in Psalms , His lovingkindeness is better thatn life. I have been in love before, but Itell you truly, that there is no comparison when it comes to the intensity and the awesomeness of God's amazing love in Jesus Christ.It's free for the asking and only continues on in it's depths. The best part is God loves us even when we feel we don't deserve it! Praise His Name!Taste and see the Lord is good.
Peace and grace to all, Elaine
"I'd most certainly LOVE to see someone write a Biblical rebuttal to that article on great reasons to be single which don't involve a me-centered, selfish mentality."
The Biblical advantages of being single...
Reason #1: You can offer your body as a living sacrifice exclusively to Christ. Particularly, you get to enjoy the virtues and joys of a consecrated chastity, which Christianity has always prized.
Romans 12:1
"Therefore, I urge you, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God—this is your spiritual act of worship."
I Corinthians 7:34
"An unmarried woman's aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband."
Reason #2: You’re more likely to reach out to the larger world around you, to explore wider vistas of service in the Church and in your community, and to explore and develop your spiritual gifts for service with more discretionary time.
I Corinthians 7:33
"An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs."
Reason #3: You can extend your domestic skills into the homes of others in outreach and mission, making ministry and its joyous rewards your first priority.
Luke 18:29-30
"I tell you the truth," Jesus said to them, "no one who has left home or wife or brothers or parents or children for the sake of the kingdom of God will fail to receive many times as much in this age and, in the age to come, eternal life."
Reason #4: You can afford to invest your money, whether saved or earned, directly (and totally if you like) into ministries and local charities and the work of spreading the Gospel. It is a fun adventure to find ministries that you would like to partner with through giving!
Matthew 5:42
"Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you."
Reason #5: You can better embody the lifestyle of Heaven.
Luke 20:34
"Jesus replied, "The people of this age marry and are given in marriage. But those who are considered worthy of taking part in the heavenly age and in the resurrection from the dead will neither marry nor be given in marriage...they are like the angels."
Matthew 22:30
"At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven."
Reason #6: You can focus time and energy singleheartedly into a single enterprise, free from the concerns attached to family life.
I Corinthians 7:28-29, 32
"But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: and would I spare you...I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife."
Reason #7: You’re less depressed.
I Corinthians 7:39
"The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will in the Lord.But she is happier if she so abide (as a single widow), after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God."
Reason #8: You have opportunity for more extensive friendships, united by common interests and mission rather than such as are based on the common pursuit of home life.
Philippians 2:2
"Then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose."
Reason #9: Your travel tales are enviable.
Matthew 4:22
"...and immediately they left the boat and their father and followed Him."
Reason #10: You can enjoy leisure time for the prayer, Scripture study, education, spiritual retreats, missions, and reflection that are often difficult to come by while caring for a family.
Matthew 6:33
"But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well."
I just read that article and the author is way off base. I remember being so depressed when I was single and I know for a fact I spent way more money than I do now as a married woman. And where was God in her article? I think that poor girl is very lonely and is trying to convince other singles that she is right.
The amusing thing about this article is how many of the points listed in it are directly related to finding a mate in life. YOu want to look better - to find a mate, you want to improve yourself - to appear more desirable to a potential mate, you want your financial situation to be appealing - for a mate, you want to get to know yourself better - to find the best mate for yourself.
In essence, they spend half the time talking about the benefits of being single just so you can get move toward marriage! LOL
Michelle
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