My heart is breaking
Originally published December 2006, I'm re-posting this video and article as we reflect upon the 35th anniversary of Roe v. Wade.
[Please note: This video is not for young viewers and contains graphic content - graphic content which the adults of America need to wake up to and understand.]
My husband had me watch this last night. I am beyond words. It tore me up. How can any parent allow their young daughter to go through such a nightmarish experience? Where are the feminists who say women, young women especially, should be given choices and options? This young girl most certainly wasn't given a choice or even information. How can society condone this sort of experience as "a woman's choice"?
My heart is breaking... breaking for the thousands of women who go through this experience, who think that abortion is the right choice, who have to live with the guilt, the pain, the misery - for the rest of their lives.
My heart is breaking for the thousands of young women - little girls - whose parents aren't protecting them enough to keep them from getting in a situation where they would find themselves pregnant in the first place, little girls whose parents then don't give them any other option but going to an abortion clinic.
My heart is breaking for the millions of babies who were mercilessly slaughtered, many even when they are viable.
My heart is breaking when I see my little daughter look up into my eyes and say with gusto, "I love you, momma" and I can't help but think of the millions of children whose lives were cut off before they could ever utter those words, whose parents will never experience the thrill and joy of hearing those precious words.
My heart is breaking for the thousands of couples who would love to have children of their own and can't and yet they patiently wait and try and pray while millions of children are brutally murdered of their own parent's volition.
My heart is breaking that I can't do more, more to save these precious children, more to help those parents who think killing their child is in their best interest, more to save young girls from ever having to go through such horrific experiences as the 14-year-old girl on Bill O'Reilly's show.
Related: Read my follow-up post here.
[Please note: This video is not for young viewers and contains graphic content - graphic content which the adults of America need to wake up to and understand.]
My husband had me watch this last night. I am beyond words. It tore me up. How can any parent allow their young daughter to go through such a nightmarish experience? Where are the feminists who say women, young women especially, should be given choices and options? This young girl most certainly wasn't given a choice or even information. How can society condone this sort of experience as "a woman's choice"?
My heart is breaking... breaking for the thousands of women who go through this experience, who think that abortion is the right choice, who have to live with the guilt, the pain, the misery - for the rest of their lives.
My heart is breaking for the thousands of young women - little girls - whose parents aren't protecting them enough to keep them from getting in a situation where they would find themselves pregnant in the first place, little girls whose parents then don't give them any other option but going to an abortion clinic.
My heart is breaking for the millions of babies who were mercilessly slaughtered, many even when they are viable.
My heart is breaking when I see my little daughter look up into my eyes and say with gusto, "I love you, momma" and I can't help but think of the millions of children whose lives were cut off before they could ever utter those words, whose parents will never experience the thrill and joy of hearing those precious words.
My heart is breaking for the thousands of couples who would love to have children of their own and can't and yet they patiently wait and try and pray while millions of children are brutally murdered of their own parent's volition.
My heart is breaking that I can't do more, more to save these precious children, more to help those parents who think killing their child is in their best interest, more to save young girls from ever having to go through such horrific experiences as the 14-year-old girl on Bill O'Reilly's show.
If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land. 2 Chronicles 7:14Originally published December 2006.
Related: Read my follow-up post here.
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posted by Crystal Paine at 10:42 AM
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one day my hubby and I went on a day trip for his work,and I was driving right after I dropped him off .There was this sign that read......adoption not free abortion.In huge letters well it made my heart jump to think people in this day and age were relizing something I was taught very young adoption is a way to know that even through you have made a BIG mistake there are loving parents-to-be who want a baby or a child.WHY CAN'T PEOPLE BE PROUD - TO -ADOPT instead of this nonsence about abortion .Think of it this way you are saving lives and you are helping to make a family you may beable to provide for yourself but for someone else ,isn't that a asome gift to give to someone since God himself gave us the gift to bear children .Take a look a Mosses he himself was given up sent through the water to his adoptive mother.WHY SHOULD CHILDREN of all ages go with out a Mom and Dad?I happy to say adoption saves lives not destroy them .Well later on that day I show my HUbby what I found and it brought tears to his ,since we are both living proof of saved lives what a wonderful God we have "praise the Lord our Father"for his gifts
As someone who is experiencing infertility, it breaks my heart, too. Not only abortion but anytime I see something on the news about a parent killing/abusing, etc. the children they were given. Why don't they realize what blessings children are?
I wonder how her parents live with themselves...absolutely horrifying...what a wonderful thing "choice" is. Blessings, Kim
My mother had an abortion when she was very young. She wasn't a believer at the time. And she was not educated about what an abortion truly was. This was during the late sixties or early seventies when the feminist movement was really taking off. They told her it wasn't a baby yet, it was just a big blob of tissue. After it was done, she immediately knew it was wrong. And the guilt set it. She married my father a few years later, and became a Christian. She learned the truth about the Giver of Life, and abortion. She praises the Lord that she is forgiven for this gross sin, and can't wait to be united with her baby in heaven. She to this day has never told her parents, and only told me, a grown woman, a few years ago. Let me tell you, the guilt, the shame, and the incredible mourning never goes away. She feels it every day and it has been over thirty years. Please I ask you, and I know you are all sympathetic to these young girls who are being misled, but please please pray for those who have already gone through this that they will find peace in God. And pray that more "wake up" before it is too late!! Thank you Crystal, for such a poignant post. We need to be reminded of this as we go to the polls!!
This is a horror that defies any words I can add here. We need to pray and ask the Lord what each of us can do to help stem this awful cultural tide.
Anonymous said "Why can't people be proud to adopt". As a woman that has suffered with infertility for over 5 years with out much hope of getting pregnant in the future, I would love to adopt. Here is what most people don't understand about adoption. To do it through an agency we are looking at paying a little over $18,000 to adopt a child. We have looked in to it. We do not have the financial means to adopt. My husband make more money than the organization that help will allow, but that doesn't mean that we have that kind of money sitting around. I have a major health condition and all of our spare money goes to treat that. People often think that adoption is so easy. You just go in and in a few weeks you are matched. That just isn't the truth. The process is long and drawn out, and in this country a woman has 72 hours post placement to change her mind. In other words everything expect for the court papers handled and she could take the baby back. My husband doesn't want to pursue international adoption which can cost $25,000 - $30,000, and I won't do it through DHS of our state. They want to regulate how you can discipline the child and where you send them to school. Since I believe that homeschooling is the only way to go, the state is out of the question. I hope that all of this isn't coming across harsh, but that is the reality of adoption. I'm still praying that God will give us the child that we so desperately long for in whatever way He sees fit, but until He gives direction, it is a waiting game.
Crystal, have you seen the DVD "The Monstrous Regiment of Women"? It deals with feminism, and 'specially with abortion. We watched it several evenings ago, and I didn't eat my supper that nigh. It is revolting. Every time I hear about "women's choice", I realize that those people would gladly kill me. They won't admit it, of course, but here's my story:
Fifty-one years ago a young woman became involved with a man who was not her husband, and became pregnant. She did not want the children - she wanted an abortion. ....But abortion was not legal fifty-one years ago.
Thank God.
The woman got a hold of some pills she was sure would end her problem, but they would not stay down.
Thank God.
So she tried strenuous labor, trying to make herself have a miscarrige. But she had a strong healthy body, and carried to full term.
Thank God.
She gave birth to TWO little boys. Because their mother didn't want them, they were given to HER mother, their grandmother, who raised them as one of her own. Their uncles became their brothers.
The family was lost and on their way to hell. What the boys' mother had been involved in was no surprise in her family. But God intervened and brought the twins to Himself. They are both now married, and between the two of them they have ten children. Ten children, and two fathers. Twelve people that could have been snuffed out by one abortion. An abortion, after all, that "is the woman's choice, and doesn't affect anyone else", right?
Am I trying to play on emotions by creating a sad story? Hardly. Abortion is real, hard, cruel, and wicked. I know.
You see, if abortion had been legal fifty-one years ago, I would have never BEEN, because they would have killed my Daddy.
~Amber
Have you heard, Norma McCorvey (Jane Roe) endorsed Ron Paul for President.
She says he is the only candidate that would end abortion.
Ron Paul for President 2008
http://www.ronpaul2008.com/
I am 27 weeks pregnant. I sit here in tears after viewing that segment. Dear God help us! How on earth can they do that to not only that 14 year old child, but to her unborn baby as well!? I want to vomit. We MUST do something. This very morning I was asked if I would vote for someone who would change the economic status of our country or someone who is pro-life? Really!? Is there a question about it? Money or babies? Please! No question...none.
This is so heartbreaking. I was just brought to tears earlier today when I heard that the sister-in-law of a woman I know "reduced" her babies down to 2 (she had been pregnant with 5). I can't even imagine. It makes me sick to think about it and so incredibly sad. And of course I don't think that it would have been any better had this woman "reduced" to 3 because she would still be killing the others, but I think a woman could carry 3 babies (they were worried about her being able to carry all 5 since she is very petite). It just shows how much this world loves death and hates life.
I listened to a wonderful Focus on the Family yesterday where Dr. Donson was interviewing a man who had worked with such people as Betty Friedan to make abortion legal. He is now a believer and is so completely against abortion. He had a friend of his who worked in an abortion clinic take realtime footage of all of the abortions he performed in one day and graphically described in during the show- it was horrendous. He said that it was this that finally caused him to understand what an abortion really does and that it is a baby, an actual human baby with legs, arms, organs, etc. (when he first began trying to legalize abortion they did not have ultrasounds and other instruments to see the baby and so many people did not realize that it was an actual baby and not just cells/tissues, etc.).
One thing he said that I think is extremely important to think about is that we should not use the same terms that abortionists use, such as I did earlier by saying that this woman "reduced". They use these terms to desensitize people and confuse us as to what really is taking place. Instead we should say "she killed three of her five babies". See what I mean? Also, in regards to "partial-birth abortion" (another of their terms) he said that any baby that is 20 weeks or more along, it would be considered a pre-term birth so if there is a "partial-birth abortion" performed on a baby 20+ weeks than it truly is a pre-term delivery and then killing the child, which is really INFANTICIDE (can you imagine the uproar it would cause if we began to call it what it is??). It was a really good message- we should not be afraid to call things what they are, we should not use their terminology because it just enables people to become desensitized to what is actually going on.
I can hardly talk about this anymore or I will just start crying again.
Dr. Tiller gives his patients the option to say "goodbye." A quote from him on the process:
"If you wish to see the baby [after the abortion], we call this an identification and separation encounter. About 2-3 hours after you deliver and after the twilight anesthesia has worn off, so that you will remember the process, we will bring the baby to you either at the bedside or we will go to our quiet room and we will bring the baby to you there. During this encounter we will describe to you what's right with your baby, we will identify what's wrong with your baby. You may hold the baby. We can take pictures of you and the family holding the baby, if you wish, and that is not an uncommon request. The identification/separation encounter may be very brief, five or ten minutes. It may even take less than that. Or the identification/separation encounter may involve 2 or 3 hours of bonding with the baby - the identification that this is your baby and you have had a delivery. We understand beyond a shadow of a doubt that the difficult part of this process is not the premature delivery of the stillborn. We understand that the easy part of this process is the premature delivery of the stillborn. The difficult part of the process is saying goodbye to the relationship that you have with your baby - saying goodbye to the hopes and the dreams that you have for this - you have placed this baby in your life someplace and you simply have to start the process of saying goodbye.
"When you have finished your support - when you have finished your identification encounter you will separate from the baby by giving the baby to us and you will begin the process of saying goodbye on a long-term basis and you will begin your journey into growth, recuperation, recovery, and healing."
I don't understand why people want to say goodbye when they didn't even have to in the first place.
This hits me personally on two fronts:
1st) I was born in 1973 and I remember a couple years ago this really hitting me because I was an 'oops' child. I am the youngest and my parents did NOT want or plan to have any more children. HOWEVER, my Mom chose LIFE, even though I wasn't "planned". Even though it was inconvenient to have another child and created a lot more 'issues' for them, they chose to have me. I am so grateful for her choice and the reality of the year I was born, when abortion became legal, has really hit me that my life is PLANNED by the Lord and I am grateful for life....personally. We can take our very existence for granted, but the reality that I could have just as easily been an aborted child has really hit home with me and cause extreme gratitude to rise up in my heart.
2nd) We thankfully have two precious children of our own now; however, we struggled to conceive our second and have been unable to have any more since then, even though our hearts have longed for more children. So, as someone who has struggled with infertility and the wanting of more children, the whole abortion issue is frustrating for me. Adoption prices are outrageous; therefore, we are currently beginning to pursue foster/adoption through DHS - actually beginning our training this week. Another poster commented on the 'regulations' set forth by DHS and we agree, which is one of the reasons why we are choosing to only foster infants/very young children at this point, and are opening our hearts to possible adoption this way. Some friends our ours adopted babies straight from the hospital through the foster care system - those babies never lived anywhere else.
And the final thing I'll post about this whole issue is one major frustration I have: Why is it that teenagers do not need parental permission to have an abortion; however, I had to have parental permission to have my ears pierced before I turned 18? There is something majorly wrong with that!
I am sitting here trying to figure out what to say. That absolutely broke my heart. This is an unspeakable horror, what is going on in this country. We must pray fervently that God would intervene mightily in this situation.
Anonymous'comment above (about the abortion clinic having the women say "goodbye" to their dead babies) made me nauseous. I worked as a labor and delivery nurse for 6 1/2 yrs. Thank God for working at a Catholic hospital where we did not have to deal with anything remotely related to abortion! Anyway...many, many times I have given support to women who have had a stillbirth. I've done footprints, dressed babies so tiny they fit in the palm of my hand, and taken pictures...and encouraged women to hold and love the baby and say goodbye. They tell you that as the nurse you have to be the strong one, but I always cried too.
I CANNOT imagine what is going through the minds of those people to encourage women to look at and say good-bye to a baby they JUST MURDERED!! If they are injecting saline solution, the babies must be horribly burned. What are the women thinking when they hold this baby "What I cute baby I just killed" ?!!
A 20-wk baby is very much a baby. Tiny and precious with downy hair on their little heads and perfect fingers and toes...
I had a friend at work that was pro-abortion...until the night a woman walked in that was halfway through an abortion (the abortion had been started at a clinic somewhere and then she had been sent home--how dangerous is that, by the way?). I wasn't on duty that night, but my friend described how she watched the baby's heartbeat start bottoming out on the monitor. Thank goodness it was a Catholic hospital and they would not finish the abortion--I think the mother left AMA (against medical advice). That night changed my friend's stance on abortion forever. She said it was a heartbeat and a baby just like any other baby that we helped deliver everyday--only this one had been killed...
Phebe
Sad beyond belief...one never knows what blessings a child will bring into their life...even an ill child!! May the FATHER bless these young gals who do not know what they are doing!!
Here are a few things we can do to help:
1. Pray for an end to abortion.
2. Give, of your time and resources to crisis pregnancy centers. Most cities have them listed under ABORTION ALTERNATIVES in the A section of your phone book
3. Have children, enjoy them and be sure to tell others what a blessing they are. The attitude that children are a nusiance is really the abortion spirit.
At 29 wks we found out our daughter did not have any kidneys. Kidneys produce urine, which makes up the amniotic fluid in the womb, which develops the baby's lungs. The doctors told us this condition was incompatible with life, she would die shortly after birth due to her undeveloped lungs.
Their biggest concern was on giving us 'options' at that point.
1. Terminate the pregnancy (by D&E, dilation and evacuation. They never mentioned the dreaded word "abortion".
2. Terminate the pregnancy by early induction. But they could not induce labor unless they injected the baby with a drug to stop her heart. This was due to the ban on partial birth abortions, they couldn't let me deliver a live baby, but they could kill her and then let her be born.
She was measuring small, 24 wks but I was really 29 wks. They harped on this point endlessly, that I possibly could have the wrong due date. The reason they wanted to know was if I was 24 wks or less they could legally perform an abortion.
The third option was basically unspoken and our only option. To continue the pregnancy and let God decide how long Isabel would live.
Even if I wasn't a Christian and just wanted to 'get it over with' and abort, it wouldn't have really helped anything. Like that gal on the video shared, it just creates bigger problems. I know what it has been like just greiving the loss of our daughter. I can't imagine having to do that on top of the guilt of killing her.
It is tough to really speak the truth because many women have had abortions, before they knew Christ or simply have made some terrible decisions that they regret, but the bottomline is that this is a hideous travesty of women's 'rights'. Women aren't being served and the babies certainly aren't.
It's very, very upsetting. My children don't even know what an abortion is. I don't really know how to tell them that people actually do such things. It would be too shocking for them.
I have made the decision to stop being so politically correct about it. In this day and age with 3D ultrasounds, how anyone can justify that an abortion not murder can only be explained by the enemy blinding people.
I can relate to what a reader said earlier about the frustrations and expense involved in adoption. My husband and I are in the same situation and we are discovering all the same things about the adoption process and risk of heartache if something "falls through." We have also checked into international adoption and found that there are even fraudulent agencies out there that will string you along, take your money and at the end, you are even further away from having a child because you have to start all over again. We really don't know what to do ourselves because we have not gotten pregnant (but are still trusting God to bless us in this way), don't have the money just laying around for the expense of adoption and feel overwhelmed at where to begin in that process and who to trust. We desire very much to be parents and our hearts are heavy with the sadness that this has not happened for us. So, yes, abortion is a heartbreak and is so senseless and sinful! My heart breaks for the babies and for the women who then suffer from that unbearable burden of guilt and shame. We need to pray that the atrocity of abortion will be abolished, but also for the women (and fathers!) that have already suffered its shame and are living with the regret and despair that sin brings.
Amen, Crystal! Yesterday I was sickened to read an article in the Washington Post praising the abortion pill. One female OB/GYN went so far as to say it was a "natural" procedure to get rid of an unwanted pregnancy.
As an avid pro-lifer, this does sadden me. We are on the forefront of the abortion issue here in Mongolia and we are gaining so much ground, so please be encouraged! In 2007, at least 47 babies were saved through our church women alone. Last year we also made it onto the airwaves and had very high ratings when we went on TV talking about the issue.
Yesterday I traveled to the capital with my husband to do 2 30 minute tv programs, one of them about abortion. We're believing for more lives saved in 2008 than ever before! We are being invited to speak all over the country and so far have been well received and had tremendous results.
If people in America are hardened, please remember that the ground in Mongolia is so soft and ready for the truth. Please pray for us as we make the message of LIFE available to them.
Having lost my daughter 10 months ago after only 16 1/2 hours of life, I am heartbroken. I can't imagine how a woman can kill her child. I can't imagine their grief, afterward, knowing that it was because of their choice. Thank you for sharing the realities of this horrible "fad."
I know you are doing a lot of book reading. I CANNOT RECOMMEND HIGHLY ENOUGH the book THE MARKETING OF EVIL. I will warn you though that I still have nightmares after reading the part about s-- and the part about abortion. I do hope you read it and blog about it. It is one of the most powerful books I have ever read. It is amazing how we have gotten to where we are today. A lot of things you are not told in school.
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