Lovin' That Man of Mine: Have fun together!
I loved all of your great thoughts and practical ideas you shared last week for ways you bless your husband show him love. I especially thought it was so great to hear about how different our husbands are. This is one reason it is important we learn from others and glean from others but we always remember that our job is to love our own husband. The way we love our own husband might very well look entirely different from the way someone else loves their husband.
Today, I want to encourage you to have fun with your husband. I really believe one of the glues which has kept our marriage strong in spite of many winds of adversity over the past 5 1/2 years has been that Jesse and I have fun together. We are constantly laughing together, teasing each other, playing pranks on the person, cracking inside jokes, and just having a blast together.
My husband is a huge tease and he loves nothing more than a good laugh. So I learned early on in marriage to keep things lively and always be looking for the humor in every situation. I try to keep a running log of everything funny I come across each day to share with him via email, when we're talking on the phone, or when he comes home from work.
Whether it's something one of the girls did or said, something I thought give him a good ribbing over, or a hilarious story I read in a book or on someone's blog, I do my best to always have something funny to share with him when we're together. He loves it and often we both find ourselves howling with laughter together!
A merry heart truly "does good like a medicine" (Proverbs 17:22) and a good laugh is the perfect stress-reliever to a long day or a difficult situation. It's also a great way to forge a close bond with your spouse. It's hard to hold a grudge against someone when you're having a blast together!
What about you? How do you and your husband have fun together? Tell us about it in the comments section. [Remember this is a family-friendly blog with young readers so let's keep it G-rated. :)]
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posted by Crystal Paine at 6:15 AM
19 Comments:
Hello!
My husband loves to go fishing. We try to go as often as we can.We always have a wonderful time!
Take Care,
Trixie
Thank you so much for this series! I choose to use Biblical Womanhood as an interactive website and try to take action whenever I read a good idea. Last week's post made me think about how my husband would want me to show love to him (his love language). This has been an excellent opportunity to refocus on some of the things that make our 22 year marriage a good one.
For anyone who doesn't know what I mean by the term love language, there is more information in the popular book: The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.
Thanks Crystal!
Sally
We like to watch our college team sports together (basketball and football), although we don't have much of a selection because we don't get cable. We also like gardening together. Playing with our puppy always comes up high on the list.
And, I must admit, we're both Star Wars junkies. Watching the movies together, or even just quoting from them, is always a good time.
At least once a month, we "sneak" out (w/nine we sneak out at nap time) and run some errands, then get a little snack [share an ice cream, fries etc. under $5. I know I'm a cheap date :-)] and just talk. We really look forward to this time and have fun together. It is fun to sit there together and talk with no little ones running up to you!!
My husband loves to play games, especially computer games. He rarely does it because he is busy doing so many other, more important things. But, he finds them relaxing and a great way to let go of all the stuff from work in his head. We have our computers on a network. So, on the weekends we will usually play a game together while our little boy is napping. We'll "chat" on the computers and sometimes yell across the room just to keep the competition juices going. I know it sounds kind of nerdy, but my man loves it and it is pretty fun. The games we play are just good clean fun.
While this isn't having fun together, my husband goes to play his games with his guy friends once a week on Fridays. All the women get together and care for the kids and hang out. While I miss my husband during that time, I know it is an investment because he comes back more relaxed and ready for the weekend with his family. Not only that, it is a ministry because a few of the guys and girls aren't Christians and we are always trying to reach out to them through our friendships.
My husband and I love to laugh with each other. We have inside jokes that we have shared for over 13 years now. It is funny how just laughing about an old story or event can take you back to the time when you first dated and fell in love.
When we laugh and act silly together it makes me feel like we are still young and lively and I know it makes him feel the same.
I realize that this isn't an "everyday" suggestion, but my husband just had his birthday and I surprised him with a kid-free weekend at a cabin in the woods. We had a great time just playing in the waterfalls, walking on the trails and spending time alone. I did several things secretly over one year to save up for it and it was worth every penny.
-Kelly-
My husband and I make up silly songs together. Usually when we are in the car, we combine road signs and things along the way to make up great musical masterpieces. My husband always comments that we should take our show on the road and I always remind him that we are on the road and our daughter who is two thinks it is the funniest thing ever and giggles in her car seat.
-Jen www.weepingcherries.wordpress.com
Oh this is a fun topic for me because my husband is the king of good fun! The children in the neighborhood come to the door and ask to play with him and not our children! He has a toy room with a collection of vintage toys because they are nostalgic to him from his childhood. That's why his name on our blog is Mr. Potato Head. That's his favorite toy and his largest collection!! He even has a website devoted to it.
So, the way we have fun is to play! He is the life of the party and he loves to play games, go on any and all adventures, and create all sorts of fun. Basically, we have fun together doing anything other than buying fabric in the fabric store. As long as I don't ask him to go in there with me, we're having a good time no matter what we're doing!
I don't need to do anything except be my own silly self. He is constantly finding things about me that he finds hilarious. One thing is that I occasionally completely mispronounce words or make up words that are non-existant. I rarely do it to make anyone laugh, but he loves it. A lot of laughing at my expence, but I don't mind it. ;-)
My husband really likes playing video games with me. We don't do it very often, but he always gets excited when I suggest we play Dr. Mario or something.
Also, when he and I first started dating, he regularly got a bit jealous of my relationship with my brother, because we always joke and sing stupid songs together. So I shifted that attention to him (since my relationship with him is, after all, more important than that with even my siblings). He loves making up songs about our dog, or billboards that we see on car rides, &c. And I love that he's the only man I've ever been with who I feel comfortable doing those things with.
My husband and I met at a Christian college where we walked everywhere!! So we still do that together at night when the weather is pleasant and the kids are well-watched by older siblings. It's so simple, but we have a blast talking things out and laughing at each other even after 24 years of marriage!
Thanks for your wise counsel. I'm beginning to think that many Christian younger women have much to teach the older women!
Rosa
After dating for almost 4 years and 23 years of marriage, I can tell you without a doubt that without laughter and God we would not have made it this far. We never miss a chance to torment the other one, but we are also very careful to make sure to laugh at ourselves. When one of us does something stupid, we break our necks to get to the other one to tell them so they can have a good chuckle. Being able to laugh at yourself is probably the most important thing. Without a sense of humor life would be dull and colorless. I am convinced that God has a sense of the comedic. There are too many things that have happened in my life that point to Him sitting up there grinning when He knows He has thrown us a little curve ball! Sometimes having fun together is as simple as telling funny happenings from the day. My dh is totally against using the computer and refuses to let me show him how, but he loves it when I print out jokes for him. When someone sends me a particularly funny video, I make sure to save it for him. We don't see each other much because he works shift work and I work full time, but when we do we try to take a little time out for laughter.
It has been fun to read all the comments. My husband loves football. So during football season I try and make Monday nights a big deal. We have all his favorite game snacks and I try not to schedule anything so we can just hang out and watch the game togeter. My husband also works 6 days a week so we only have Sunday as a family day. One way I have learned to love to him is to not have anything extra on that day. We go to church and worship as a family then come home and have brunch and spend the rest of the afternoon doing whatever he want to do till we go back to worship again. We usually have a great time together as a family. And it is relaxing and refreshing for him. But this has challenged me to look for more little things I can do to show him how much I love him and appreciate him.
Thanks, Stephanie
My husband and I like to steal quiet moments together. We enjoy sitting on our front porch sipping our coffee. Working in our garden together is also a relaxing time for us. Since he works from home and I only work part-time, we are sometimes able to go out to lunch without the kids during the school year.
We also love to laugh....especially at our kids! My husband used to always joke around saying we were going to have children in order to have someone to laugh at. I think he really meant this! He'll frequently tell our boys that we're not laughing with them, we're laughing at them. This makes them crack up!
My husband and I work together in the family restaurant and we're constantly cracking jokes or he makes faces at me while I'm trying to take people's orders from across the restaurant.
Someone mentioned making up songs and I think we have made up a song for just about everything using cheesy 80's songs as a template. Remember that song "Highway to the Danger Zone" from Top Gun? Well we have a posted area around here that says "Senior Zone" that's around a retirement village and you can imagine the fun we have with that one.
We also like to watch this one silly car show on BBC America called Top Gear. I'm not a huge car buff but my hubby is and the presentors are hilarious so it's something we enjoy together.
-Jen K.
Hi Crystal - thank you for this series! We love to play games together.
But, I've had on my heart lately to tidy the living room before he gets home. Meet him at the door, scratch his back and serve him some sweet tea. I did this today - and it was a MUCH better way to welcome him home than just letting him walk in the door.
I printed out a funny story and read it to him so we'd both get a laugh! Thanks again!
Monica
What a great reminder! I often find myself needing to lighten up! Life is more fun with those we love when you can keep it light!
Being that I am a newly wed of almost 2 weeks, and coming out of a courtship where we did not spend time together alone, we just enjoy creating those special inside jokes and funny moments together.
We just are silly and goofy without regard and I love learning him in these early stages of our marriage. It makes it so much more interesting and funny.
Jamala Thomas- Formally SingleMomForGod
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